Send love to your haters and watch life open up

17 August, 2017

Why do some relationships work out and others end in flames? 

You don’t have to be much older than five to experience the pointy end of someone else’s ego.  In the playground not being invited to someone’s birthday party or complaining about the teacher looks like milk compared to ‘grown up’ crisis’ like a psycho boss or an acid throwing divorce settlement. 

Is there somebody in the distant (or not too distant) past that, when you recall their face, you just instantly think to yourself; ‘fucker’?

Yes I’m pretty sure most people have one of those. A prickly thistle sitting right in the waistband of your knickers.  Someone who over time became so different to you, it became hard to see your shared humanity. 

You’ve probably realised this already, but unfortunately it’s impossible to be alive and not experience suffering. 

Acknowledging and accepting goes a long way on the healing journey.

Of course most of us prefer distraction.  The panadol of our modern world. 

What does the Law of Attraction say about this kind of thing?  Like attracts like.  So, for some specific reason, that prickly so-and-so was created for you to learn something about yourself. 

But did you learn it?  Or have you attracted more prickles? The pricklier and more challenging the relationship, the greater the lesson nature was trying to get across. 

Those relationships that cause us the greatest pain become our greatest teachers. Reflected in the memory of what took place is a mirror image of how we're choosing to keep ourselves small  (Tweet this  Tweet: Those relationships that cause us the greatest pain become our greatest teachers. Reflected in the memory of what took place is a mirror image of how you’re choosing to keep yourself small. )

It might be painful, but we can choose to grow from these interactions.  This is the ‘good pain’ yoga teaches us about –  the pain that creates length, space and freedom for something new.

Here’s the thing: there is a very simple, effortless practice that will free you of this person. 

Wish that person well. 

Send out love to that person on their journey. 

Even if real time apologies and setting straights can’t happen, in your mind, make it clear to yourself you wish no ill will. 

This doesn’t mean you have to pick up where you left off and rekindle the relationship.  But you have to MEAN IT.  Mean it within yourself and feel it.  Truly mean that person well. 

You could make this a focus of your meditation, prayer or practice.  You can make it the topic of your gratitude practice for the day.  Think about several things you’re grateful for in that person (this is possible!) and when you write WHY, wish them all the luck in the world.

This practice is powerful and it has the ability to shift mountains within you.  Don’t just take my word for it.  Intelligence requires evidence.  Do the practice and all is coming.

Much love to you gorgeous

Kate xo


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